Saturday, March 28, 2009

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Before start looking for love you must first know yourself in depth. It is very important that you know where you come from, who you are and where you are heading. If you do not know yourself, which are your tastes and preferences and if you are unaware of your dreams, it is very unlikely that you can find a person that comes along with you in this wonderful journey called life.
The definition for love is not easy. Every culture in history had a different definition for the word but I will try to give a very wide one.
Love is a deep feeling of affection for someone else. Love usually comes along with affection, respect, admiration and a constant need to be close to the one you love. Also –this is very important- love comes in both ways. You cannot be in love of someone who does not even know you exist. That is most likely to be an obsession but it is not love for sure.
Love is both a psychological and chemical process. It all begins with lust. Lust is the initial passionate sexual desire that promotes matingand involves the release of chemicals such as testosterone andestrogen. Then comes the attraction. Attraction is the more individualized and romantic desire for a specific candidate. In the attraction process, the brain releases many chemicals which causes effects like loss of sleep and appetite and an intense feeling of excitement. For many schollars this stage last no more than 3 years. After the lust and attraction stages comes the attachment. Attachment is the bond that allows the relationships last for decades. The attachment is reached with the sum of variables such as marriage, children, friendship and common interests. This lead us to our first premise. If you are looking for someone to love try also to find a very good friend. That friendship creates a very solid and lasting relationship.


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